1. Marry the right person. This one decision will determine 90% of your happiness or misery.
2. Work at something you enjoy and that’s worthy of your time and talent.
3. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
4. Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.
5. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
6. Be generous.
7. Have a grateful heart.
8. Persistence, persistence, persistence.
9. Discipline yourself to save money on even the most modest salary.
10. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
11. Commit yourself to constant improvement.
12. Commit yourself to quality.
13. Understand that happiness is not based on possessions, power or prestige, but on relationships with people you love and respect.
14. Be loyal.
15. Be honest.
16. Be a self-starter.
17. Be decisive even if it means you’ll sometimes be wrong.
18. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
19. Be bold and courageous. When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.
20. Take good care of those you love.
21. Don’t do anything that wouldn’t make your Mom proud.
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Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Friday, October 8, 2010
Tips for Interview
My Friend just got back from his 4th job interview in a week, and he've learned a TON throughout the whole (and at times, crazy) process.
Since we're all about sharing here, I thought I'd pass on the 10 juiciest lessons that I took away from our experiences.
Hopefully they'll be of some benefit to you as either an interviewer or interviewee somewhere down the road.
So here goes...
1. Attitude is everything. If you're smiling, excited and optimistic, you've already won half the battle. If you're cold, distant and uninterested, you've already lost 99% of the battle.
2. Be yourself. If you act like someone else and they like you, they don't actually like YOU. They like the person you're pretending to be. If you end up getting a job there, you won't be able to keep up the facade for very long anyway. Honesty and authenticity are very appealing characteristics. If both parties stay true to themselves, they'll know if they're right for each other. And in the end, that's usually what matters most.
3. Relax. Interviews are not really interviews at all. They're conversations. Treat them like conversations, and the tension will slowly dissolve. Remember: when you walk into that office, you don't have the job to begin with. In theory, you have nothing to lose. You either come out way ahead or back where you started. If you approach the situation with a "win-draw" mentality, most of the pressure will fall by the wayside.
4. Appearance counts. Before you meet people, virtually the only judgment you can make is based on aesthetics. What you're wearing matters. What they're wearing matters. How you sit, stand, shake hands, hold your pen and walk up the stairs counts. Not enormously, but enough. First impressions are huge. Also, how does the building look? Is the lobby clean and organized? Are the cubicles bunched together? Is the ceiling high or low? Does it look like a fun place to work? Does it invite you to come back?
5. Fit is crucial. All the smarts, skills and experience in the world mean nothing without the right fit. If your values aren't aligned with those of the company, you're doomed. If you like to have fun and they're always serious, don't even bother. Seriously. The more you fit in, the more you'll want to come back every day and bust your butt. If you're always at odds with your coworkers, you're going to hate your job. Simple as that.
6. Liking means more than talent. The days of standing in line and putting decals on widgets is over. People don't hire you because you're capable. They hire you because they want to work with you. If you don't get along, and get along well, the interview will probably be fruitless. Unless, of course, you applied for the "Assistant Placer of Decals on Widgets" position...
7. Be persistent. It's incredibly easy to get lazy, give up and feel sorry for yourself. People will turn you down, never call you back, and forget your name over and over again. None of that matters. What matters is perseverance. If you can't handle losing a few battles along the way, you're in for a tough road ahead. Getting a job is like winning a war. It takes patience, planning, time, effort, dedication and a little bit of luck. The chips will fall your way sooner or later. If you stay persistent, you'll at least give yourself a chance to catch them.
8. Bring an insane amount of (intelligent) questions. Nothing feels worse that not being prepared. If you don't bring loads of questions, you're not prepared. At some point, the interviewer will ask you what you want to know. For the record, you want to know everything. Be curious. Be interested. Be engrossed. Ask your question, and then get ready to listen. Don't think of what you're going to say next. Just soak up every word like a giant sponge. The more questions you ask, the more you'll get out of the experience. And as a bonus, they'll know you care deeply about their business. When you care about what they care about, you both start to align, and that's when the magic happens.
9. Focus on their needs, not yours. It's tempting to sell ourselves, to talk about how great we are, and to show off our past experiences. But guess what. No one cares. What they really care about is how your "amazingness" will translate into success for their company. Don't focus on your talents, focus on what your talents will do for them.
10. Blogging will give you a HUGE leg up. Blogging forces you to analyze, collaborate and create solutions. It also gives you plenty of ideas for improving customer experiences, businesses and relationships. These skills (among countless others) will give you confidence, poise, energy and know-how when it comes time to explain yourself. Your insights will be sharper, your thinking will be deeper, and your ability to express your opinions clearly and concisely will be much stronger. Blogging will prepare you better than any "How-To" book in the world. Trust me.
These 10 things are just the tip of the iceberg. There is so much more we can learn from each other about this process as a whole, so please feel free to share.
What are your best interviewing tips? What do you wish you would've known? For those of you who've been on both sides of the table, what have you learned from each situation?
Since we're all about sharing here, I thought I'd pass on the 10 juiciest lessons that I took away from our experiences.
Hopefully they'll be of some benefit to you as either an interviewer or interviewee somewhere down the road.
So here goes...
1. Attitude is everything. If you're smiling, excited and optimistic, you've already won half the battle. If you're cold, distant and uninterested, you've already lost 99% of the battle.
2. Be yourself. If you act like someone else and they like you, they don't actually like YOU. They like the person you're pretending to be. If you end up getting a job there, you won't be able to keep up the facade for very long anyway. Honesty and authenticity are very appealing characteristics. If both parties stay true to themselves, they'll know if they're right for each other. And in the end, that's usually what matters most.
3. Relax. Interviews are not really interviews at all. They're conversations. Treat them like conversations, and the tension will slowly dissolve. Remember: when you walk into that office, you don't have the job to begin with. In theory, you have nothing to lose. You either come out way ahead or back where you started. If you approach the situation with a "win-draw" mentality, most of the pressure will fall by the wayside.
4. Appearance counts. Before you meet people, virtually the only judgment you can make is based on aesthetics. What you're wearing matters. What they're wearing matters. How you sit, stand, shake hands, hold your pen and walk up the stairs counts. Not enormously, but enough. First impressions are huge. Also, how does the building look? Is the lobby clean and organized? Are the cubicles bunched together? Is the ceiling high or low? Does it look like a fun place to work? Does it invite you to come back?
5. Fit is crucial. All the smarts, skills and experience in the world mean nothing without the right fit. If your values aren't aligned with those of the company, you're doomed. If you like to have fun and they're always serious, don't even bother. Seriously. The more you fit in, the more you'll want to come back every day and bust your butt. If you're always at odds with your coworkers, you're going to hate your job. Simple as that.
6. Liking means more than talent. The days of standing in line and putting decals on widgets is over. People don't hire you because you're capable. They hire you because they want to work with you. If you don't get along, and get along well, the interview will probably be fruitless. Unless, of course, you applied for the "Assistant Placer of Decals on Widgets" position...
7. Be persistent. It's incredibly easy to get lazy, give up and feel sorry for yourself. People will turn you down, never call you back, and forget your name over and over again. None of that matters. What matters is perseverance. If you can't handle losing a few battles along the way, you're in for a tough road ahead. Getting a job is like winning a war. It takes patience, planning, time, effort, dedication and a little bit of luck. The chips will fall your way sooner or later. If you stay persistent, you'll at least give yourself a chance to catch them.
8. Bring an insane amount of (intelligent) questions. Nothing feels worse that not being prepared. If you don't bring loads of questions, you're not prepared. At some point, the interviewer will ask you what you want to know. For the record, you want to know everything. Be curious. Be interested. Be engrossed. Ask your question, and then get ready to listen. Don't think of what you're going to say next. Just soak up every word like a giant sponge. The more questions you ask, the more you'll get out of the experience. And as a bonus, they'll know you care deeply about their business. When you care about what they care about, you both start to align, and that's when the magic happens.
9. Focus on their needs, not yours. It's tempting to sell ourselves, to talk about how great we are, and to show off our past experiences. But guess what. No one cares. What they really care about is how your "amazingness" will translate into success for their company. Don't focus on your talents, focus on what your talents will do for them.
10. Blogging will give you a HUGE leg up. Blogging forces you to analyze, collaborate and create solutions. It also gives you plenty of ideas for improving customer experiences, businesses and relationships. These skills (among countless others) will give you confidence, poise, energy and know-how when it comes time to explain yourself. Your insights will be sharper, your thinking will be deeper, and your ability to express your opinions clearly and concisely will be much stronger. Blogging will prepare you better than any "How-To" book in the world. Trust me.
These 10 things are just the tip of the iceberg. There is so much more we can learn from each other about this process as a whole, so please feel free to share.
What are your best interviewing tips? What do you wish you would've known? For those of you who've been on both sides of the table, what have you learned from each situation?
Monday, March 22, 2010
A TO Z... FOR LIFE
A--Accept
Accept others for who they are and for the choices they've made even if you have difficulty understanding their beliefs, motives, or actions.
B--Break Away
Break away from everything that stands in the way of what you hope to accomplish with your life.
C--Create
Create a family of friends whom you can share your hopes, dreams, sorrows, and happiness with.
D--Decide
Decide that you'll be successful and happy come what may, and good things will find you. The roadblocks are only minor obstacles along the way.
E--Explore
Explore and experiment. The world has much to offer, and you have much to give. And every time you try something new, you'll learn more about yourself.
F--Forgive
Forgive and forget. Grudges only weigh you down and inspire unhappiness and grief. Soar above it, and remember that everyone makes mistakes.
G--Grow
Leave the childhood monsters behind. They can no longer hurt you or stand in your way.
H--Hope
Hope for the best and never forget that anything is possible as long as you remain dedicated to the task.
I--Ignore
Ignore the negative voice inside your head. Focus instead on your goals and remember your accomplishments. Your past success is only a small inkling of what the future holds.
J--Journey
Journey to new worlds, new possibilities, by remaining open-minded. Try to learn something new every day, and you'll grow.
K--Know
Know that no matter how bad things seem, they'll always get better. The warmth of spring always follows the harshest winter.
L--Love
Let love fill your heart instead of hate. When hate is in your heart, there's room for nothing else, but when love is in your heart, there's room for endless happiness.
M--Manage
Manage your time and your expenses wisely, and you'll suffer less stress and worry. Then you'll be able to focus on the important things in life.
N--Notice
Never ignore the poor, infirm, helpless, weak, or suffering. Offer your assistance when possible, and always your kindness and understanding.
O--Open
Open your eyes and take in all the beauty around you. Even during the worst of times, there's still much to be thankful for.
P--Play
Never forget to have fun along the way. Success means nothing without happiness.
Q--Question
Ask many questions, because you're here to learn.
We Learn By Doing, And Teach By Being.
R--Relax
Refuse to let worry and stress rule your life, and remember that things always have a way of working out in the end.
S--Share
Share your talent, skills, knowledge, and time with others. Everything that you invest in others will return to you many times over.
T--Try
Even when your dreams seem impossible to reach, try anyway. You'll be amazed by what you can accomplish.
U--Use
Use your gifts to your best ability. Talent that's wasted has no value. Talent that's used will bring unexpected rewards.
V--Value
Value the friends and family members who've supported and encouraged you, and be there for them as well.
W--Work
Work hard every day to be the best person you can be, but never feel guilty if you fall short of your goals. Every sunrise offers a second chance.
X--X-Ray
Look deep inside the hearts of those around you and you'll see the goodness and beauty within.
Y--Yield
Yield to commitment. If you stay on track and remain dedicated, you'll find success at the end of the road.
Z--Zoom
Zoom to a happy place when bad memories or sorrow rears its ugly head. Let nothing interfere with your goals. Instead, focus on your abilities, your dreams, and a brighter tomorrow.
Sunday, March 21, 2010
Love your JOB, no matter what you do ...
No matter what the job, what it all comes down to is this: real satisfaction comes from finding a job that fits your personality and your talents. If you want to find a job that makes you excited to wake up every day, remember, the road to happiness starts with a single step."Choose a job you love, and you'll never work a day in your life."
When you are doing something you love to do, the time just flies. When you have a big problem, it is just a fun puzzle to figure out. If the challenge is big enough to take several days to solve, it doesn't weigh you down. You just happily find different perspectives, mentally try various solutions and finally choose one to be the answer. You may be preoccupied, but you are gladly and willingly engaged and satisfied.
You spend a substantial portion of your life at work. Why not make that time as professionally and personally rewarding and fulfilling as possible? You have nothing to lose, and potentially a great deal to gain, by spending time exploring your interests, values, and options. I believe you really, ought to want to love what you do at work.
Love the work you do and the heaven is always behind you.
Saturday, February 13, 2010
Five Steps to Manifesting Your Goals - by Gini Grey
What do you want to manifest for yourself over the next year? Here some steps to follow which will support you in achieving your goals.
1) Know What You Want: If we don't have a destination in mind, we are likely to stay where we are. Use your imagination to envision your ideal lifestyle, dream job, fulfilling relationships, balanced health or whatever your heart desires. To help motivate you towards your goal ask yourself why you want it. What will it do for you? How will you feel when you get it? Spending five minutes each day imagining having your goal and what it would look and feel like will inspire you to move towards it as well as start attracting it to you.
2) Take Action with Ease: Even with the best laid plans of action, glitches can occur, blocks can pop up and obstacles can threaten to halt our progress. When we move into resistance or try to deal with the situation from an attitude of struggle, the problems usually loom bigger than before or get lodged into place. By maintaining an attitude of trust and taking action from a place of effortless ease, obstacles miraculously melt away or new opportunities reveal themselves. Simply notice if your body is tense or your mood grumpy and take this as a signal to take a break, breath deeply or find something to laugh at as a way to move back into a state of ease.
3) Let Go of the Process and Outcome: Planning action steps toward our goals is very important, but if we get fixated on them or on the final outcome we can actually impede our own progress. Focusing too specifically on how something is supposed to occur creates tunnel vision and blocks the abundance of opportunities waiting on the outskirts. Practice being flexible and open to new ways of doing things and see how much more quickly and simply you achieve your goals.
4) Be Able to Have Your Desires: Feeling undeserving, guilty or not good enough will keep our goals from manifesting. Even if on the surface we feel great about having our desires, if we harbor any underlying doubt or limiting beliefs we will find a way to sabotage our own best interests. Use your imagination again to envision actually having what you want in your life and notice if any uncomfortable feelings or thoughts come up that say no to this. Imagine releasing them right out of your space and see them drift away into nothingness. You can learn to shift and release any blocks in order to create whatever you want in your life.
5) Maintain a State of Abundance: Like attracts like so if we want more of anything in our life we need to be in a state of abundance, feeling grateful for all the wonderful things we already have in our life and feeling optimistic about attracting more greatness into our life. If we focus on what's missing or going wrong in our life, we'll simply attract more of that, so use your imagination to inspire you into an uplifting mood in order to manifest all your goals.
All are golden words for life and to manifest our goals.Follow on,live a successful life,cheers.
Saturday, November 14, 2009
10 power words for your CV
A friend of mine forwarded this article,it was very useful for me.Thought will share with all through my blog.
1.Achieved
Good example: Achieved the target of implementing the software onsite for 200 users 15 days before the deadline.
Bad example: To implement the software onsite.
This sounds more like a responsibility. The interviewer is mainly interested in knowing about your output.
2.Built
Good Example: Built new premises to convert the study centre into a residential college accommodating 200 students.
Bad example: Building a new premise for the residential college.
3.Developed
Good example: Developed guidelines for 50 users to understand and use the new process for client handling.
Bad example: Developing guidelines to use the new process for client handling.
The selector and the interviewer will be amused with questions like: What guidelines? When? For whom?. The good example here answers these queries and shows your output rather than your responsibility.
4.Eliminated
Good example: Eliminated the use of thick brown tape for sealing the packages to reduce the cost by over 15 per cent.
Bad example: To eliminate wasteful of resources.
The selector will again have the questions like 'what type of resources?', 'how did your action help?'
5.Forecast
Good example: Forecast a downturn in the FMCG business because of economic slowdown. Suggested measures to combat it and achieve the quarterly target.
Bad example: To analyse and forecast the market.
6.Introduced
Good example: Introduced a new process to handle queries from potential customers to increase the conversion rate by 60 per cent.
Bad example: Introducing a new process to handle client queries.
7.Modernised
Good example: Modernised a chain of 15 retail outlets across three states to meet the taste of urban youth.
Bad example: To modernise the look of retail chain outlets.
8.Organised
Good example: Organised reseller conferences in three cities while maintaining a close co-ordination with three internal departments and four vendors.
Bad example: Organising events like exhibitions and retailer conferences.
9.Recommended
Good example: Recommended five new ways to ensure that the company is able to roll out the new version of its 'small car' before the launch of Nano [Images].
Bad example: Recommending ways for the company to roll out its new 'small car'
10.Secured
Good example: Secured first position in the university while pursuing MBA course and helped the college stand at the top of the list.
Bad example: University topper during MBA.
How do I use these in my CV?
1.List your responsibilities and achievements.
2.Find the one word that best describes your role in that situation such as manage, co-ordinate, plan, advise etc.
3.Begin your sentence with the past tense of the verb you decide to use for every responsibility.
4.Add some figures and facts to your statement.
1.Achieved
Good example: Achieved the target of implementing the software onsite for 200 users 15 days before the deadline.
Bad example: To implement the software onsite.
This sounds more like a responsibility. The interviewer is mainly interested in knowing about your output.
2.Built
Good Example: Built new premises to convert the study centre into a residential college accommodating 200 students.
Bad example: Building a new premise for the residential college.
3.Developed
Good example: Developed guidelines for 50 users to understand and use the new process for client handling.
Bad example: Developing guidelines to use the new process for client handling.
The selector and the interviewer will be amused with questions like: What guidelines? When? For whom?. The good example here answers these queries and shows your output rather than your responsibility.
4.Eliminated
Good example: Eliminated the use of thick brown tape for sealing the packages to reduce the cost by over 15 per cent.
Bad example: To eliminate wasteful of resources.
The selector will again have the questions like 'what type of resources?', 'how did your action help?'
5.Forecast
Good example: Forecast a downturn in the FMCG business because of economic slowdown. Suggested measures to combat it and achieve the quarterly target.
Bad example: To analyse and forecast the market.
6.Introduced
Good example: Introduced a new process to handle queries from potential customers to increase the conversion rate by 60 per cent.
Bad example: Introducing a new process to handle client queries.
7.Modernised
Good example: Modernised a chain of 15 retail outlets across three states to meet the taste of urban youth.
Bad example: To modernise the look of retail chain outlets.
8.Organised
Good example: Organised reseller conferences in three cities while maintaining a close co-ordination with three internal departments and four vendors.
Bad example: Organising events like exhibitions and retailer conferences.
9.Recommended
Good example: Recommended five new ways to ensure that the company is able to roll out the new version of its 'small car' before the launch of Nano [Images].
Bad example: Recommending ways for the company to roll out its new 'small car'
10.Secured
Good example: Secured first position in the university while pursuing MBA course and helped the college stand at the top of the list.
Bad example: University topper during MBA.
How do I use these in my CV?
1.List your responsibilities and achievements.
2.Find the one word that best describes your role in that situation such as manage, co-ordinate, plan, advise etc.
3.Begin your sentence with the past tense of the verb you decide to use for every responsibility.
4.Add some figures and facts to your statement.
Monday, October 19, 2009
How To Be A Friend?
01. Don't worry about knowing people just make yourself worth knowing.
02. Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer.
03. If you can buy a person's friendship, it is not worth it.
04. True friends have hearts that beat as one.
05. If you cannot think of any nice things to say about your friends, then you have the wrong friends.
06. Make friends before you need them.
07. If you were another person, would you like to be a friend of yours?
08. A good friend is one who neither looks down on you nor keeps up with you.
09. Be friendly with the folks you know… if it weren't for them you would be a total stranger.
10. A friend is never known till he is needed.
11. Friendship is a responsibility. ..not an opportunity.
12. Friendship is the cement that holds the world together.
13. Friends are those who speak to you after others don't.
14. The reason a dog has so many friends is that he wags his tail and not his tongue.
15. Pick your friends, but not to pieces.
16. A friend is one who puts his finger on a fault without rubbing it in.
17. The way to have friends is to be willing to lose some arguments.
18. If a friend makes a mistake, don't rub it in... Rub it out.
19. Deal with other's faults as gently as if they were your own.
20. People are judged by the company they keep and the company they keep away from.
21.. A friend is a person who can step on your toes without messing up your shine.
22.. The best mirror is an old friend.
23. The best possession one may have is a true friend.
24. Make friendship a habit and you will always have friends.
25. You will never have a friend if you must have one without faults.
26. Doing nothing for your friends results in having no friends to do for.
27. Anyone can give advice, but a real friend will lend a helping hand.
28. You can make more friends by being interested in them than trying to have them be interested in you.
29. A real friend is a person who, when you've made a fool of yourself, lets you forget it.
30. A friend is a person who listens attentively while you say nothing.
31. You can buy friendship with friendship, but never with dollars.
32. True friends are like diamonds, precious but rare; false friends are like autumn leaves, found everywhere.
33. A friend is someone who thinks you're a good egg even though you're slightly cracked.
How do I know if a person is lying?
The following methods of lie detection could be useful for managers, employers, and just in everyday life. They will help you distinguish where truth and lies and not become a victim of fraud. But remember that sometimes ignorance - it is bliss.
External signs
Usually, this liar may be accompanied by the following features:
- A nervous cough;
- Stuttering;
- Yawning;
- Blink;
- Tremor in her voice;
- Change the color of a person;
- Heavy breathing;
- Dryness of the lips;
- Dry mouth;
- The appearance of droplets of sweat.
Gestures, body language
1. Gestures liar uncertain and limited.
2. A man who lies, avoiding eye contact.
3.Liar constantly touching their face, neck, mouth, etc., while he rarely touches the chest of the heart.
4.When a person lies, his gesticulation becomes unnatural, sometimes even fussy. He can pull at the edges of clothing, shakes off the dust, remove small particles (real or imaginary), fingering, rubbing his hands, straightens her hair.
5. Liar can nervously snapping his fingers, banging his foot on the floor, and so forth - are symptoms of anxiety, for which a liar for sure there are reasons.
Contradiction gestures and emotions
1.Very often in the first second after your question on the human face shows what he really thinks. If his face expressed surprise, confusion or doubt, and while he says his confidence is suspicious.
2. If the rate has slowed gestures, probably a man thought for a moment, to come up with a plausible answer.
3. The lie can be accompanied by a mismatch between words and gestures (nodding his head in the negative responses, rocking his head with negative responses).
Interaction
1. A man who lies selects a defensive position, while the man who speaks the truth goes on the offensive.
2.Liar does not feel comfortable standing in front of his interlocutor, he can turn away from you in another direction or how to hide away from your field of view (lean on the cabinet, while actually hiding behind them, lying on a chair, driving it to him under the table, etc.)
3. Liar can unknowingly arranged between them and your foreign objects (book, a cup of coffee, apple, etc.)
This
1. Liar, answering your question, use your own words. "For example: "Did you eat the last cookie?" - "No, I did not eat the last biscuit!"
2. Liar, gives the answer in abbreviated form. For example, "This is not me!" instead of "I did not do it!"
3. Liar, trying not to make direct statements, evasive answers, and makes allusions, rather than speak directly.
4. Liar can be more than natural, adding extra unnecessary details to convince you. He stops and tries not to pause in his speech.
5. Liar could lose control of timbre and tone of voice: a high tone indicates a person experiences stress, as well as the voice of high volume, monotonous speech may be an attempt to lull the interlocutor.
6. It liar may be strongly distorted, mainly affects the syntax and grammar.
Other signs for which you can find the lie
1. If you think that someone is lying to you, change the subject, a liar willing to support you and calm down.Guilty people will want to translate the conversation into another channel, the innocent would want to sort things out until the end.
2. A man who lies, uses a lot of humor and sarcasm in his speech.
Naturally, the presence of some of these signs does not make a man a liar. So finding them in your friend, do not hurry to write it in turn. Compare them with his usual behavior.
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